Excuse Me... Pick Up Strategy
June 13, 2006
So I have had a few strategies I have posted through the years (not all on this blog) and I think it is time for a new one. This one is perfect for some bars, but even better for if you are in a bar/restaurant. The key to this is also being cool with the bartender. Here is how it works.
You have your outgoing wingman. This person should preferably be taken, that way you know they will not really go in to kill your game. You sit close, but not at the bar. Look to see if there is anyone interesting coming in.
In this example, the person coming in is RED. When that person comes in, your wingman moves to the bar. This so that you are not actually seen drinking together. Every once in a while, they can come over and talk to you, so that you appear sociable.
After you discuss if this is the right type of girl and you find her to be attractive and not taken, make the move. Your wingman moves over to put some pretty bad moves on them. You then move to the
bar, so that you can order a drink and sit there for a second. Wait till your person of interest makes that face of "o god help me." Ask the bartender for what they ordered to be made, explain you are going to be buying them a drink. Also, get your friend a drink to be placed at the bar in their spot.
Now is the big move. Suck it, its go time, or else your friend is about to go downtown. Go over to that person and excuse your friend. Say something clever. Either way you will have rewarded your friend with a drink. Apologize to the poor person who had to deal with that and have the bartender bring them a drink. Move and do whatever you have to now.
I can't guarantee it will work, but at least its a shot to get you the opportunity.
posted by Total Core Fitness Bootcamp @ 6/13/2006 01:08:00 PM,
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What Do Guys Want?
can I ask your advise-. What is a guy looking for in a female? Looks? Brains? Sense o humor? Blow jobs? Money? Not just someone in their 20's but all ages, including the 40ish guy. What makes him fall in love and want to not lose the person from his life? What makes him fall out of love?I know this is a lot to ask and you aint dear abby, but maybe,just maybe you can shed some light since you know.
-thanksheartbroken in california
I got this comment yesterday. I first jumped up and down, because I received a comment, then sat and thought about it. At first I did not have the right words. However, this did not get me down, I went to my thinking room, yes the bathroom. I don't know why, but everything becomes clearer to me when in there.
First thing I would ask is, have you ever been in love and then ask, have you ever fallen out of love. It is always easy to question the feelings of others, when sometimes you have not experienced them yourself. I fortunately and unfortunately have found both. To be honest, the story with Dori and I is almost identical to your question.
We met through a HS dance, I went to a small school and if someone from the outside stepped onto my turf, I found them. She was with this idiot and I figured, hell if is she is with him, then there must me something wrong with her. We ran into each other by chance 2 other times. 1 time I tried talking to her and she ignored me and looked to the floor. Another was when she was with her bf and friends playing mini-golf. When we decided to meet up, I just got out of a long relationship with a girl I loved and her from one with an idiot, I was not looking for anything. I was honest with hr later on in telling her, I had every intention of playing her, because I was going to college in the fall. However I fell for her and shortly she broke up with me. I was "too nice". She was not used to a guy giving flowers, picking her up and treating her nice. About a month later, we were back. But that experience with her reasons to break up with me the first time, got to me. I thought, "maybe I am supposed to be that 'bad boy.'"
After being together for about 2-3 more yrs, I ended it. We fought more often and something was missing. I still loved her, but wasn't "in love" with her. It took me a while to find out what it was. We forgot to be friends when dating. We became consumed with things going on in our professional, collegiate and social lives, that we never paid attention to each other. This is why, I said, we were not dating when I popped the question. We filled that gap that was missing and things have been where they should have been. I will not lie, but I believe that time off opened my eyes to the world. I got to experience talking to many people and learning more about what people are really after. I have lost friends from them finding out I was getting married, simply because they wanted to screw me. This however I am finding is not uncommon.
As for falling in love and what people want. Well that is up to the person. However the only advice I would give from my personal experiences is, let go. Let go of the past, let go of the negatives and let go of anything that cannot happen. We all love to torment ourselves. If you had a bad experience, learn from it and let it go. The best way to go about everything is that this is today and today is a clean slate. You cannot change the past and you cannot hold the future to the past. Many people will take it against others who have nothing to do with the situations. Example. Many girls will be weary of all guys (ok) but then will not ven open up and try to give the guy a chance (not ok). They could be putting that "bitch" act up to protect themselves from some guys, but in reality, the women only need to protect themselves from themselves.
A great movie I would recommend watching, strictly for the basic look at human communication and basic wisdom is, HITCH. But to give you the insight how many guys and I mean many guys feel, here are some quotes from a scene in HITCH.
Albert: You know, honestly, I never knew I could feel like this. You know? I swear I'm, I'm going out of my mind. It's like I want to throw myself off of every building in New York. I, I see a cab and I just wanna dive in front of it because then I'll stop thinking about her.
Alex Hitch Hitchens: Look, you will. Just give it time.
Albert: That's just it. I don't want to. I mean, I've waited my whole life to feel this miserable. I mean, and if this is the only way I can stay connected with her, then... Well, this is who I have to be.
posted by Total Core Fitness Bootcamp @ 6/13/2006 08:14:00 AM,
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A Paper Towel Holder?
June 12, 2006
Was getting a drink with Dori and usually we will talk about random shit, like talking about the lovely rumors, jobs and sports. Why is it ok to all the sudden be having drinks and she starts talking about what kind of paper towel holder we should have? Then laundry baskets?!
WTF is going on? It feels like one sick joke.
posted by Total Core Fitness Bootcamp @ 6/12/2006 01:37:00 PM,
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OOO A Gift... Now What?
June 09, 2006
Well, I got word we got some gift already. Its a toaster oven. Wow. Here is the convo:
D: "hey we got our first gift in the mail"
me: "Oh yeah? What is it?"
D: "a toaster oven"
me: "that's nice, but we still don't know where the hell we are living yet"
I would rather money really, but I guess the ability to make toast is good enough for me. Another 449 days to go of receiving toasters, knives, towels and crap. The excitement is killing me.
posted by Total Core Fitness Bootcamp @ 6/09/2006 07:04:00 AM,
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Where Are The Laughs?
June 07, 2006
So I am in this flag football league for adults. We play tues nights and is often a night filled with jokes and just having a good time. Last night, our team had only 5 players (need minimum 7). The other team luckily only had 6 but picked up one of their friends from the stands to play. So one of the refs was looking to the sideline and saying, hey you can play for the black team (my team). I look over and start laughing because I told this person I would put them in the game if we were short and they should wear black. Yes ladies and gentlemen, it was Dori aka my fiance (from earlier posts on this blog you know the story).
She gets on the field and people are laughing because of the fact a girl is playing and she almost sacked the QB a few times. People start coming in from the lobby to watch this event and us just rolling on the ground laughing at how pathetic the game is going (because neither team was filled and everyone is just doing whatever). People in the stands shouting "give the girl the ball" and the refs threatening the orange team if they black the ball from her, he's throwing a flag (which he did often to them). However some people were so bent on trying to win the game and others are just out to have fun. I was a bit surprised though to see that my team, the team that doesn't care about winning, just having fun and joking around, was all the sudden starting to worry about winning. Not joking, not shouting "BLUM", just was getting fed up.
I mean eventually everyone fell on the ground when this one guy from the orange team, who has to be about 3oo lbs, only 5'5 and can't run really fast took over as QB, went to run in for a TD. We all let him get in and watched him dive. It was hysterical. Seriously, this was a game that should have been on camera. However, our team, the misfits as we call ourselves, made history. We were the first to put a girl on the field for football and she scored a TD in the game.
posted by Total Core Fitness Bootcamp @ 6/07/2006 07:05:00 AM,
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